friendship

The Mighty Strings of Pleasure and Pain

The Mighty Strings of Pleasure and Pain

"The universal war is not limited to the relation between different states, but takes place between villages, between households, and between individuals, and that it takes place even between the different parts of each individual soul."

~ T. K. Seung

Shattered Pieces of the Same Bright Sun

Good Friend
by Cloud Cult, from Love

Oh this life is so strange, you need a sense of humor.
The maker is half caretaker and half joker.
We are not broken ones. . .just shattered pieces of the same bright sun,
trying to figure out which way to run,
and I can't do this alone.

All I need is a good good friend
To get me through this
All I need is a good good friend
To help me out
When I'm burning down
When I'm all stressed out
When I'm underground.

Life is a playground, but it takes a lot work.
You better learn to love, or it'll tear you apart,
cuz in the end, we are measured by the size of our heart,
and we can't do this alone.

Some of us are laughing, while some of us are choking
Some of us can't change til every bone has been broken.
All the while the maker just sits there joking, "You never really were alone."

Thank you for being around.

Find Something to Push Yourself Out of Your Comfort Zone

"Three years ago, Blake Haxton's battle with necrotizing fasciitis (flesh-eating bacteria) was so serious that his parents were planning his funeral. Doctors at Ohio State's Wexner Medical Center saved Haxton's life. He lost most of both of his legs, but survivedand is now thriving at Ohio State."

His story hits me right in the chest: partly because he's willing and able to share it so well, and partly because he was in Alex's graduating class at Upper Arlington High School. I remember when they called his name at the commencement ceremony while he was in the middle of this ordeal. On a very deep level, we collectively want all children to be healthy and happy and them to make the transition from childhood to adulthood as safely as possible.

Blake's insights resonate deeply, about balancing an awareness of our fragility with our innate capacity for resilience which can be strengthened by cultivating a mature relationship with discomfort. 

"In thinking about what got me through my painful timesand there were a lot of themI realized that as a kid and in high school I was really blessed to play a lot of sports...[like rowing, which is] really hard.

If you want to have any success at it, you've got to be able to push through your own pain barriers. Now I didn't know it until after the fact, but that equipped me to deal with pain when it became not an option, when it was absolutely inevitable. I've got to tell you, there were some days where having had those experiences kept me sane.

So what I'd like to encourage all of you to do is find something to push yourself out of your comfort zone. Believe me, I know that's not an easy thing to do or to want to do, but when the time comes that you have to rely on those things and you have no choicewhat literally might be life and deathyou can draw on those things to get you through those times."

~ Blake Haxton, from "The Advantage of Adversity, " TEDxOSU