"I will always hold you close,
But I will learn to let you go.
I promise I’ll do better."
Sleeping at Last
"Wisdom, the Buddha says, starts with a simple question: What actions will lead to my long-term welfare and happiness?
The wisdom here lies in realizing that your happiness depends on what you do, and that the pursuit of happiness is worthwhile only if it’s long-term.
The test of how far your wisdom has matured lies in the strategic skill with which you can keep yourself from doing things that you like to do but that would cause long-term harm, and the skill with which you can talk yourself into doing things that you don’t like to do but that would lead to long-term well-being and happiness.
In other words, mature wisdom requires a mature ego."