Friendliness Resistance

Accept Your Non-Acceptance

Accept Your Non-Acceptance

Everyone is doing their best, even when it seems like they are doing their worst.
Everyone is dreaming or having a nightmare, battling with pain you may never understand.
You don't have to condone their actions.
You may not be able to wake them up.
You don't have to like what happened.
Simply let go of the illusion
that it could have been any different.

~ Jeff Foster

Strengthen Emotional Warmth

Strengthen Emotional Warmth

One of the things I’ve come to appreciate about mindfulness strategies is the way some core internal obstacles can be unraveled without necessarily needing to solve a related narrative puzzle.

Grateful for Annoying People and Difficult Situations

Grateful for Annoying People and Difficult Situations

"Conventional gratitude is based on distinguishing what we like from what we do not, good fortune from bad fortune, success from failure, opportunities from obstacles. By practicing conventional gratitude, we may begin to better appreciate times of good fortune and opportunity. But what about all the obstacles, unpleasant people, and difficulties in our life? "

~ Acharya Judy Lief

Soothing the Amygdala

ICA | The Institute of Contemporary Art/Boston, March 24, 2012

Psychology Today: What’s one lesson kids of all ages could benefit from?

Ravi Chandra (The Pacific Heart): The most important lesson lies in understanding one’s fear and anger, and the primitive brain. Fear of loss, isolation, and abandonment are [like death threats] to the amygdala, which pushes us into fight-or-flight mode. The most important work involves soothing the amygdala, as well as generating love, compassion, and wisdom from our cerebral cortex.

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Love at First Sight

Love at First Sight

"Fall in love with the first thing or person you see. Your latte, the café worker, a bottle of ketchup, a bird out the window, a panel truck passing. Whatever. Write about it, talk to it, focus on it rapturously. A variation: Jot down a list of things you see around you and fall recklessly in love with all of them."

~ Kim Addonizio

We Make This World

Oscar Wilde

by Company of Thieves

Episodes and parallels,

Don't you want the invitation?

Big bright accent, catty smile,

Oscar Wilde confrontation

Ah, Live like it's the style

Oh, we waltz on your front porch

We are all our own devil

We are all our own devil

And we make this world our hell

We are all our own devil

We are all our own devil

And we make this world

We make this world our hell

Porcelain teacups decorate,

Tables and the conversation,

Beauty pageants, all the time,

Is running out, the time is running out

Live like it's the style

[chorus]

Time keeps on ticking away

It's Always running away

We're always running in time

We're always running from time

[chorus]

Suffering Bodies

Suffering Bodies

"You'll find lot of communities which are based on the word, thus to say we speak of an ideal together and we are committed to an ideal or to a vision and so on. But L'Arche is based on body and on suffering bodies."

~ Jean Vanier